Shahana Goswami has spoken candidly about his evolution in love, open relationships, multiple partners, and physical intimacy. Milind Soman. In a recent interview, the actor reflected on heartbreak, emotional freedom and unconventional relationship dynamics.
“I lived the life I wanted to live”
Speaking about how long it took her to move on after the heartbreak, Shahana told Siddharth Kannan, “In a sense, right away, because I was living the life I wanted to live.”She added: “Immediately, even then, I thought, ‘I don’t think relationships are for me, because the relationship formula doesn’t fit me.’The actress then revealed that her understanding of relationships has evolved over time. “We were in an open relationship where you don’t make those rules but you’re still rooted for each other,” she shared.
‘Why do we put everything in one contract?’
Explaining her philosophy on love and commitment, Shahana challenged society’s conventional view of relationships.“If you trust life, let life happen. Why do we put everything in a contract? If it’s meant to happen, it will happen,” he said.The actor added, “I have seen people who never got married but stayed together for 20-30 years. So if marriage is not necessary for love, why should I get hitched?”According to Shahana, the definition of love gradually changed over the years. “For me, love is more and more freedom over a period of time. Whether it’s friendship, parenting or romantic relationships, you have to give people room to be who they are,” he said.“I don’t believe that there is any need for control or rules in love,” she added.
“I have many people with whom I share old dynamics”
When asked to define open relationships, Shahana emphasized the importance of honesty and communication.“Open communication, honesty, constant clear communication. You really have to understand what kind of person the other person is. No two people are ever the same. You have to accept each other as they are,” he explained.The actress has admitted that she no longer believes in the idea of having a “first” partner.“At the moment, I don’t even have a main partner like that. I have a lot of people, and I have a long-standing dynamic. But that’s not a coincidence for me,” he said.Using friendships as an analogy, he explained, “Every friendship is different because every person is different. You only focus on your relationship with that person.”
Shahana Goswami on physical intimacy in open relationships
During the interaction, she was asked if open relationships involve emotional and physical intimacy with various people.Answering honestly, Shahana said, “Sometimes it remains a friendship, sometimes it can even turn physical.”He further explained, “Maybe after three months with that person, you feel the urge to physically connect with them, and you do.”Likewise, the actor revealed that transparency is important in such dynamics. “There’s nothing hidden in my life. They know I was physically intimate with someone else. It’s not a whistleblowing system, but yes, everyone knows,” she shared.
“Heartbreak happens even in open relationships”
Shahana admitted that non-traditional relationships are not free from emotional pain.“Of course, heartbreak happens. If someone says this setup doesn’t work anymore, you get heartbroken too. But that’s part of the experience,” he said.The actress also spoke about the emotional labor required to maintain such relationships. “You have to deal with your jealousy, insecurities, loneliness and rejection. It’s not easy. People think freedom is easy, but you have to work hard on yourself,” he added.
“I’ve got too much love to give”
Addressing criticism of her views on exclusivity, Shahana said many people misunderstand her approach.“People think this choice comes from losing faith in love. But for me it’s the opposite,” he explained.“I have too much love to give, so why should I give it to just one person?” he concluded.
