Eva Grover has spoken candidly about her tumultuous marriage to Hyder Ali Khan, revealing that she realized she made a mistake just days after their wedding. In a recent interview, Eva reflected on her youthful obsession with marriage, the warning signs she ignored, and the abuse she endured before finally leaving.Recalling her first dreams of fitting in, Eva admitted that marriage had been her biggest ambition since she was a teenager.“Actually, this obsession didn’t start when I was 26 or 27. It started when I was around 15 or 16. I was totally obsessed with the idea of marriage. I had to see 16 more Somvar fasts than most people, all I wanted was to be blessed by Shiv Ji with a marriage,” said Vickey Lalwani.Eva said she imagined a fairytale life full of love, children and a loving family. However, the reality was completely different.
“I was only with him for 18 days”
The actress revealed that she married Hyder Ali Khan after dating for less than three weeks.“Honestly, I was only with him for 18 days. In 18 days, you don’t know a person. Looking back, I don’t think it’s all his fault. Maybe some of it was mine too, because it was too soon,” she said.According to Eva, he ignored the concerns of family and friends and ran away with her despite the differences in their backgrounds.“He proposed to me, I didn’t listen to my mother or anyone else, and I ran away with him. My career was on the rise at the time. We were from different religions, but on the 19th day, I went with him and we got married,” he recalled.
“His anger issues were more than I imagined”
Eva said it took her a few days to realize that the man she married was very different from the one she thought she knew.“When I got married, I realized very quickly that he was not the person I thought he was,” she said.Describing the problems that emerged, Eva added: “The first thing was his anger issues. They were way beyond anything I could have imagined. I’d never dealt with that kind of aggression before because there was no man in my house growing up.”Asked directly if she was violent, Eva replied, “Yes. It was violent. I don’t want to focus on specific days, but yes, it was physically violent.’
“They made me feel like I was the problem”
Despite the abuse, Eva stayed in her marriage for years, hoping things would get better.“Because I loved her,” she said, often blaming herself for the situation.“They constantly made me feel like I was the one to blame. They told me I was the problem, that I wasn’t capable enough, that I couldn’t handle things properly,” she shared.The actress also said that conversations about mental health were rare at the time, making it harder for her to ask for help.“In those days, mental health wasn’t discussed the way it is today,” he said.
Tahir Hussain he tried to help
Eva had kind words for late filmmaker Tahir Hussain, who raised Hyder and is the actor’s father. Aamir Khan.“Tahir Hussain Saab was a gem of a person. Whenever he got a chance, he would talk to me about it. He would get emotional and even cry,” she said.Shahnaz also praised his former mother-in-law, calling her a “woman with a heart of gold”.
“Having a child doesn’t fix a broken marriage”
After years of marriage, Eva became pregnant, hoping that a child would improve the situation.“After four years, I let myself get pregnant because I really thought things would get better. That’s what a lot of people in our country are taught: that a child will save a troubled marriage,” she said.“But in dire situations, it usually doesn’t work that way.”Eva continued to work throughout her pregnancy and said she hoped that circumstances would change.
“My daughter became a turning point”
The actress revealed that the birth of her daughter finally gave her the courage to leave.“Within a month of her birth, I reached my breaking point. I just couldn’t take it anymore,” she said.At that time, Eva was working on the television show Waqt Batayega Kaun Apna Kaun Paraya. He recalled how his colleagues noticed signs of his distress and offered him support.“One day, the whole unit decided they would help me. They came to my house, talked to my mother and encouraged me to leave the situation,” he said.“Thanks to all of them, I finally talked to my mother. And my mother welcomed me with open arms.”Today, Eva says she is grateful to have rebuilt her life and is especially grateful for the support system that helped her move away from an abusive relationship.
